Good morning everyone and welcome to Friday! This has been a crazy week which I am looking forward to an ending. My youngest son is getting married and my Dolphins FINALLY play their first game. (Can’t decide which is higher on my priority list, its close). Just kidding, we all know what comes first…. 😉
So, my bride and were watching the final episode of The Bachelor the other night and the that is when the topic of this blog finally hit me. Well, it has been an ongoing issue in my head but the situation we saw took the cake. Please know first I am not judging this person for their action just making an opinionated observation…
So there was this couple and they had to make a decision to either part ways from “paradise” or leave the island as a couple. Part of that decision making process included a potential fantasy suite where they can officially consummate their relationship. I’m no prude to think that people actually wait to have sex before marriage anymore (even though I raised three boys that did just that) but life happens and sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way. Anyway it came down to this one couple and what happened now shocked even me; USUALLY it is the guy that can’t wait to get in the suite but in this case it was reversed; it was HER. Look, I get it women have needs too but this is what she said, “before I can fall in love with you, I NEED to have sex with you just to make sure its right”. Seriously?? Has the bar really dropped so low that women have no romance or class about them anymore? If there are any out there please comment so I have some hope left….The bigger picture though really is two-fold and here it is….
- We have strayed from God and now just do whatever we want to whoever we want with no apparent repercussions.
- We have set the moral bar so low that even Lucifer himself is jealous
Friends, I guarantee you that the relationship situation above never works out. I mean, I am sure the guy agreed, and they had a wild night but don’t we want more than that anymore? The show talks alot about finding love when really all they are finding is more people to have sex with. Granted there have been a couple of cases where people have actually fell in love and gotten married but folks even a clock is right twice a day…We need to set the bar higher!! Ladies and Gentleman, saving yourself for marriage is not something to be taken lightly, it takes strength, courage, and a devotion to others than transcends almost anything. So it does in other areas like how we talk to people, how we show love to other people, the language we use, I could go on and on but the message stays the same. We need to have higher expectations of ourselves and of others; we do not need to accept mediocrity in the name of political correctness. We know what is right from wrong, we make the choice…
Today, whether it is at work, home, or in that relationship it is never too late to start setting higher expectations from others. I often have battles in my family over this in that I expect better from them than most. Granted I am not perfect myself, and I’m not asking for perfection, but what I and all of you should ask for is to set the bar higher just as the fish does above. Where you set your expectations, is where you yourself will go; start a new trend and aim for that higher fishbowl….
Peace and Love,