Something Different

Good Sunday Morning everyone! Hope you had a great Saturday and got to spend some quality time with family and friends. Today’s post will be a little different than usual because its about an experience I had last night. Bear with me as I put this together….

So, in full transparency you should know that I am not one of those Christians that believe drinking is a sin. I believe for everyone the situation is different and effects people different ways. The motivation also plays a huge role; if you are drinking to ease the pain instead of going to God then yes its a problem. With that said, if I have a Blue Moon on some night, I don’t think God puts that high on His priority list…The Bible says not to get drunk and I don’t. (Let’s actually follow what Scripture says.)

So, my Bride and I went to Applebees for dinner with some family that came into town for the weekend. Again in full transparency, I had a mixed drink and said Blue Moon but was not drunk or even “tipsy”. So we can all put our judgmental hats off shall we? Anyways, its been a long week for everyone so it was our way of blowing off some steam with a nice dinner and a COUPLE of drinks.

Well, the music was playing quite loud and they were playing some great songs that put us in a singing and dancing mood. Heck, we even had some nice older gentleman come up to us and tell us how much he enjoyed our signing and our vibe. (Signing wasn’t good, but fun.) We even had the employees dancing around and one of them was like heck if you guys are going to dance around so am I. (And by dance I mean sitting in our chairs.)

Ok so here is where the “meat” of my story comes in. We go to get up and some song with a good beat came on and I started to do a “dance” with my Bride. Well, apparently the judgmental eyes of some skinny, made up woman behind us at the bar was rolling her eyes at me and making comments to the person next to her. Well, my Bride just gave her a stare down and she stopped. I’m like, whats the matter? So she told me and I felt bad because apparently this 300+ guy was an embarrassment to that person at the bar.

Normally I wouldn’t have let it bother me because my family and I were having some well deserved fun but this was the first time I felt the judgmental eyes of someone clearly because of my weight. I say that because I guarantee if I was a skinny guy with a six pack that lady would have had no problem with my “dancing”. This leads me to this point…

I hear all the time from people that we just need to stop judging and LOVE everyone. What kind of LOVE was shown by that lady last night? I get it, I’m fat and getting old and this is not a body that is attracting lines of people. (neither would I want it to because I am very happily married), but seriously are we that shallow? Does the LOVE mantra only apply to the skinny and those that fit within certain peoples bubble?

I didn’t let it effect the rest of my night; in fact I came home and my niece and I did quite the rendition of Frozen’s Let it Go! ( For a small fee I might let you view it, haha). But it did hurt that someone used something as simple as an eye roll and a whisper to place the fire of judgment upon me. Hey, fat people can have fun too right? I am working on it but still…..

Moral today? Have the love of Christ and don’t judge others based on ANYTHING; specifically their outward appearance. You never know the fun you may be missing!

Have a great Sunday everyone and thanks for reading.



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  1. The nerve of some people! That lady is probably just miserable herself. This is a shallow word we live in and it’s really sad. There is so much hatred for no reason at all. It aggravates me to no end when people judge others anyway but especially on first impressions. It sounds like you guys would be a blast to hang out with!

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    1. Thank you so much Leslie. I never want to be an embarrassment to others especially because of my weight. It just caught me off guard I guess. Blessings! πŸ™‚


  2. I Lord showed me once that there is nothing anyone could do or say about me for that would make Him love me any less. Let them roll their eyes for we are dearly loved just for being us, for who we are, and for who He made us to be. We are adored.

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  3. Ah! People like her get me so annoyed! Hmm I accept people for who there are and not what they LOOK like! God looks at the inward not outward. He’s not like man! God bless you and thanks much for sharing!! Xx

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  4. Oh, David, your post made my heart hurt. Beginning with your need to explain and apologize for having a few drinks on through being made to feel bad about yourself because of the disapproval of that poor judgmental woman. As Christians, even if we do believe drinking is a sin, for which there is no biblical foundation, we have no right to have even a single thought about someone else’s behavior. So, whether or not you drink is of no concern to anyone else, especially a Christian who is admonished by our Lord to judge not. As for that poor skinny woman, well I said a prayer for her. I say poor woman because whenever I feel judged like that, I have learned to remind myself that Hurt people, hurt people. And I say a prayer for the happiness of the person who has judged me. It helps in two ways. First, I am following the commandment of Jesus to pray for my enemies so I know I have done the right thing.And second, it brings me closer to God who I know loves me unconditionally. And hopefully the prayer I said will help the poor sad person who is so judgmental. I hope this experience does not hamper your enthusiasm for singing and dancing or even a bit of drinking in the future, for God loves a party and when we sing and dance we are saying a prayer of worship with our body and our voice.

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    1. Thank you so much for this; it means a lot to hear your perspective as well. Blessings my friend! πŸ™‚


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