Class and Respect

Good morning everyone! Hope you had your coffee or tea and are ready for a great day! I came across something on Twitter yesterday and I knew right away that I needed to write about it today. Be warned, you might take offense but it wouldn’t be the first time lol.

So I came across this debate on how to speak in front of women. Apparently there was a Pro Football player who during an interview said to the female reporter, “Excuse me but I have to go take a s**t.” There was some feedback on both sides about whether or not this was appropriate. Then a high profile ESPN reporter took offense that some people would say he shouldn’t have said that because women are equal and can handle anything that player would have said in front of a man. I responded to her that, at least for me, its not a matter of equality but one of respect for a lady. She totally missed the point and kept responding that its about equality but its not….

I come from a family that raised me to have respect for women. Not to cuss in front of them, hold the door open, etc. When did this become a bad thing? Just because I hold the door open for you doesn’t mean I don’t think your equal, it means I have class and am a gentleman. Today I understand these values have diminished, but has it really gotten to the point where some women such as this ESPN reporter feel that its about inequality? I mean I understand that women and minorities still struggle to be equal with white men in the workplace and it needs to be corrected but just because I believe saying “excuse me while I take a s**t is wrong to a lady in an interview doesn’t diminish my respect for her, it increases it! All be told I feel the comment was inappropriate to say PERIOD, but saying that to a lady just seems worse….

Look, I get times have changed; maybe that’s the problem. We need to get back to a place where men are men and ladies are ladies. It doesn’t mean I think women have less rights or are less able to handle situations than men, it just means I have respect enough to do those things (or not). Women have been taught that to have equal rights they need to be more like men. FALSE. Women are special in ways that men could never be and feminist groups have stripped that from them. Do we need equality in the workplace? YES. Does that mean that women need to be stripped of what makes them so special? NO. Women should expect these things and to be treated equal AND like a lady should. When did that become so wrong…..



Is It Necessary?


Good Thursday morning everyone! Back onto my regular shift so yep, back to my more “normal” posts. I hope this find each of you well and coming closer to Truth every day! The Truth that we can only find with a relationship with our Creator and His Son. With that said, let’s think shall we?

I feel like a broken record sometimes when I say this, but I truly think I was raised on a different planet and just dropped here. This feeling extends even into the workplace to which I write about today. My question is….Is it really necessary, or even appropriate to use profanity in the workplace? Now I get that really we shouldn’t use it at all but somehow in a professional setting it just seems really out of place to me…

When I was in my “other” career in Retail Management we actually had policies against this; the thought was that even in casual conversation, profanity had the potential to insight anger, hostility, and was just not in good taste or class. Recently I have come to understand, this thought process no longer exists. I have heard everything from every level come spewing out of others’ mouths (managers and otherwise) and it is completely acceptable. Almost no word is out of bounds and I just wonder; are we really that far gone?? Make no mistake, it comes out of my mouth as well (especially during Dolphin games) but at work it just seems incredible to me that this is tolerated.

A couple of years ago I was in a meeting where I was the only guy and maybe 11 or so other women. The leader of the meeting was a guy and he launches a myriad of vulgarities with no consideration of the ladies in the room. Afterwards I asked my boss when did this become acceptable and they were pretty much like “it just is”. What?? Has the bar been lowered so far that even in the workplace we cannot escape it? I know the world is changing but that doesn’t mean we have to accept it. We can be better, we can act with more class and professionalism, and we can demand respect from those that lead us, amen?


Friends, my favorite picture here again illustrates that we should shoot for the higher fishbowl in all we do. Shoot for the higher expectations first in ourselves and then from others. Everyone is always starting trends these days, how about we start one right here where we bring class and respect back into the workplace and into our lives? Who is with me? Start today! Demand more! Dive higher!

Peace and Love,